WARNING: The blog you are about to read is for Single/Divorced/Widowed Fathers only..so if you are anyone else reading this..please no comments about the secrets I am going to share with my fellow brotherhood of males.
OK so all y’all know that everything from this point on is being read by women. No worries, I am still going to share some ideas on perfect Dad times to have your Children. Let’s face it, Holidays are a time for memories to be, traditions established, times you and your kids will share with their kids. But unfortunately you find yourself having to split up the days with your EX. When the time comes to split the days up, it will be a very on edge day for both of you. Even though we mediated our divorce this subject was one that caused me endless stress.
So what to do? I finally realized that the actual “day” was open to interpretation. Depending on what ancient calendar or modern “Let’s make the 4th Thursday of November a National Holiday (in 1941, Congress permanently established the fourth Thursday of each November as a national holiday.) our celebration patterns were established. Which really means as a Dad you can do what you do best and make up your own Holidays traditions.
Let’s face it. Kids can only really enjoy 1 Big Meal, and most times the tension around the house in getting the meal ready doesn’t allow total enjoyment. So Dad’s be creative. Let your EX have “The Day”. You and your kids pick a day within a week or two, and have your own celebration. Get them involved in making the meal. Who cares if it isn’t perfect and the potatoes are very lumpy and the gravy is out of a jar? It is y’alls meal and celebration. Look for activities to do together ( “Holiday runs/walks”, volunteer at a food kitchen, go golfing). Put the Family back into your observance of the Day.
Finally Dad’s ask your Ex for the lesser Holidays and make them special. Martin Luther King Day is a perfect day to list your Dreams (goals) for the New Year. President’s Day is a great excuse to do a movie/video game marathon. Plant trees for Arbor Day. Give out small Flags to neighbors on Flag Day. Go out in the country and teach your kids how to have fun and be safe with firecrackers. See how many firework displays you can see in one weekend. Go discover something new on Columbus Day. Let your inner kid come through and love the day for what it truly is..an opportunity for you and your children to be a Family and enjoy doing things together.
Now go do what you have to do to…
Make it a super day,
Kevin
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